I couldnt understand why am i good when it comes to giving advices to friends .I can even write a book or two.and conduct my own spiritual talks .but why is it that when it comes to my own issues i coudnt apply any of those words .
I guess the purpose of my existence is to make friends ok. Comfort them and make them realize how beautiful their lives are
Inspired by a friend who currently having her life crisis and heartbreaks. where she cant manage to do her job correctly and ends up getting in to trouble .as a very concern friend ofcourse i have to make her ok!and get her out of the coma she's having for a very long time... the heartbreak coma.
Getting attached to someone and falling deeply inlove , people tend to give everything they have. Dedication. Care.trust. Love and everything they could give.and we all know that loving deeply causes two possible things that one should be ready for:
; to succeed or to fail. And not everybody are lucky enough to found love the soonest, for the people who fail they have to go through the pain and a process w/c i call the prerequisites of life..
-》Acceptance, the stage where u have to feel the pain . Its not going to be very long but i am warning u the pain is more painful than u ever thought .heavier than a wrestler .the scariest feeling than seeing a ghost. part of the process is to accept that we cannot control evrything and everyone. We canot force them to be the person we want them to be . Or force things
To happen the way we want it to .and most importantly Accept the fact that you are in pain . Never ever lie to urself that u are ok when u knew u are one of the victim of the wrecking ball. Well unless you wanted to keep the burden for the rest of your life ..
-》Let go.let it go just like in the song making it and passing the first level is going to be your prerequisite in the letting go process.after u have felt and absorbed all the pain .automatically your heart and mind will get used to it. But remember u dont have to store it longer inside. u have to release and let it go. For you to be able to do that you gotta be very very strong .not only in releasing the feeling but also letting go of the people that causes you pain . Its not going to be easy but remember you cannot keep someone who will prolong your agony. People that is unhealthy in your life just like fats in ur body should be released.
-》move on and start again.for some Moving on is never easy and starting again is very scary.it takes a lot of courage . But the secret is when u learn and pass the last processes these two are going to be very easy. Take it as a new chapter of your life. Where things are going to be more exciting . Create a bucket list and a vision board of everything u wanted to do but didnt have a chance to in the past years. Create something new and before u know it u just discovered an artist .an architect A designer maybe or someone u never knew u have inside you.
-》its funny how the ending part of the process was actually just the beginning of a new life the beggining of the real purpose of life... Happiness.